Definition: Happiness is a feeling part of the pleasure system, triggered by a continuous increase in influence.
- Being part of the pleasure system means that the body adapts to the pleasure, in other words we feel happy just for a short time and we need to increase the input stimulus to keep on feeling the same amount of pleasure.
- Happiness is addictive like any other pleasure feeling.
- Once the body stops pleasure hormones secretion, or the level is not increased, we feel pain going through a withdraw period.
- What is influence ? Influence can be anything valued by the society we live in. So it could be: money, physical beauty, physical power, respect, being perceived as being smart, having somethings other desire (like a big house, expensive car, a valuable painting, a beautiful spouse ).
- What does it mean that we feel happy ? Our subconscious mind has analyzed a situation and concluded an increase in influence, then signal some hormonal production. The hormonal secretion will be felt as pleasure and ascribed to being happy.
- Like any other emotion (emotion in context should be read as any hormonal secretion that generates a feeling/sensation) will impair conscious judgement. Our conscious mind will be biased towards some decisions/actions that would not have been considered in other conditions.
- If I’m in love am I happy ? Yes, my working hypothesis is that we have a limited number of chemicals (hormones neurotransmitters and such) that are being felt as pleasure. For example we feel the same pleasure when in love or when winning the lottery or doing drugs. There should be some differences, in the sense that when we are in love for example we produce dopamine and adrenaline and when we are just drugged we may be producing more dopamine and no adrenaline ? So at the same time we feel more than a single feeling, we feel pleasure and apprehension and we call that say “being in love” .
- Because we want to reproduce and we want to have more influence than other or over others, that means we don’t like societies were we are forces to be equal or where we can’t become un-equal. But if we are on the losing end then we prefer equal societies where we are not lower on the ladder compared to others. If we are losing we prefer Communism if we are winning we prefer Capitalism.
- Because all humans desire influence (happiness), all humans can be corrupted towards unfair advantages. Highly influential people can be the most difficult to corrupt, but it can also be said that the price for their corruption will be the highest.
- Since increasing in influence is in relation to something it means that we may feel influent if others become less influent. If someone loses some money then by comparison I’m gaining influence. Because of this people prefer nobody receives any money then somebody receives more money than me.
- People feel un-happy when inequalities in societies are not in their favor, regardless of their standard of living.
- Ok, I’m married and I have kids, so I already reproduced, do I still follow the same behavior ? Yes, moreover the same behavior manifest inside the couple. I’m marrying you but I still want to feel that I have more influence than you, my future spouse. Why ? My working hypothesis is that reproduction is mainly realized through sexual attraction which diminishes but does not disappear after marriage/having kids, therefore keeping hormonal secretion that are still interpreted as a need to increase influence. This in turns means that the more sexual drive the more unhappy (not increasing influence) or happy (increasing influence) someone can be. However I do not have yet a solid conclusion on this last part. There are some observations that apparently contradicts this conclusion.
- What is the difference between feeling content and being happy ? Feeling content is more or less an absence of stress hormones than an active production of pleasure hormones. My working hypothesis is that they are entirely different feelings, meaning different chemicals that are produced/ or not produced. Old age seems to bring contentment because gaining influence is not an option and losing influence is less than dying. But this could also be explained by simply having a smaller secretion of sexual hormones.
- I think I should be happy, but I’m not, why ?! Chemical release/secretion is controlled by the subconscious mind. This means that cluster of neurons acting as a neural networks have concluded that you did not increase influence enough ,or you gained something and lost something else. This conclusion may differ from your conscious analysis and may not lead to the hormonal release that should be felt as pleasure. Same mechanism applies when you feel happy and you don’t know why.
- I want to feel happy, what should I do ? The short answer is that you should increase your influence to feel happiness, but in practical terms that could mean anything. If people around you are fit and values fitness you may need to work on your fitness levels not necessarily to feel happy but because you want to avoid being unhappy. All people values money, sure thing you should try to have more than people in your circle. So I can’t actually answer this question because everything would have to be in relation to your current situation and current values around you.
- The increase in influence is relative to something, meaning that the starting value is not important. In other words. If you make say 15k and get an increase to 16k you may feel as happy as someone starting from 16k to an increase to 17k
- Why is happiness needed in the species evolution ? We need influence to attract good mates and to reproduce. If the human were a parrot, influence would be to have better colors on the feathers.
- Is happiness actually good or bad for the individual ? You may think the answer is a straight yes, but there are powerful mechanisms through which the evolution (our own body) fights against happiness. Is not fighting against happiness but rather against not being able to obtain happiness, yet the results is a decrease in influence. What are this powerful mechanisms and why are they needed ? Imagine you live in a world where you are not in a position to gain influence, for example you were born ugly or very poor and all around you beauty and money are valued. At this point this person should become more or less paralyzed by suffering. How did the nature countered this extremely frequent possibility ? Well through various kind of addictions, in context addiction should be read as something that can provide a little bit of relief from constant suffering. This could be drugs, alcohol, smoking, or now is binge watching tv shows, youtube videos and so on. Second mechanism is more insidious and useful in other contexts as well and this is our capacity for small delusions, meaning we can accept as real things that are not real or cannot be proven as real (such as God, or the “law of attraction”) or are poorly defined such as patriotism, morality, politician, love,